Relationship Counseling

 Relationships reflect back to us the relationship we have with ourselves. 

There are many dynamics taking place simultaneously in relationships. The foremost is basically one family system is bucking up against another. Both partners bring with them the rule system of their family of origin. When we believe the other person must fall in line with how “everybody” does things – problems exist. Who said your family system was better or worse? In breaking free of the family origin dictates and learning to set your own rules in which to live by, 

more stability in relationships can be found.

How are you with handling money? How are you with handling emotions? Do you keep secrets or are you brutally honest? There are so many factors that we learn from our family of origin which makes us us, however, are you willing to be flexible and maybe change your rules.

Our past exerts a tremendous influence on us. If you had a good childhood the world would be a trusting and wonderful place. You would be able to speak your mind and feel good about yourself. If you had a problematic childhood, most often it can be difficult to trust, feel inferior, and go through the motions of life just to survive. How do you feel by the end of the day? Are you exhausted and in need of a drink to settle your nerves? Or on the other hand, are you full of energy and want to get out and do something fun. To these people, life is an adventure to be experienced.